1. get enough sleep, as much as possible
  2. pause before answer any question
  3. write stuff down, or it never happened
  4. follow “what is the least I can do?”, find the lowest level of initiative for yourself while require your counterparty to act at the highest level they are capable of
  5. feedbacks should be clear, and actionable
  6. start before you think you’re ready, e.g. why don’t you assume you’ve written your book already - and all you have to do now is find it?
  7. in goal setting, if in doubt of the numbers, re-anchoring (suppose without historical numbers, use some other variables that might predict the model) is a powerful influence to overcome status quo
  8. stay on the message all the time
  9. never be afraid of silence
  10. inward focus in the enemy of growth?
  11. be the person who made something interesting happen, not nearby some interesting work get done. turn good teams into great teams. who steers the organization away from disastrous mistakes; who enables the business to accomplish things that, without them, would not have been done.
  12. state their position that they enthusiastically agree, and then ask “how could that thought be wrong”. not saying it is wrong, but under what condition can change your mind?
  13. nothing, absolutely nothing can be proven without absolute certainties - instead of asking yes or no question, on a scale of 1~10, how much do you believe in it. good to start a conversion - “what does it mean, let me explain”. “what evidence actually can change your mind?”.
  14. don’t answer hypothetical questions
  15. don’t comment on issues outside your area, just say no
  16. i don’t have specific answer to your question at this point, but i think what really matter her is big picture and strategy …..
  17. we don’t want to come to conclusion too soon, what i think the most important thing is the fundamental of ….
  18. do slow, choose carefully
  19. story telling template - there used to work in a particular way, and here is what it meant for ppl’s lives, that every day xxxxx. one day, the environmental change that is inevitable regardless of what you are trying to do. because of that ___, until finally ____. essentially, if you don’t do it, some other ppl will do it. once you describe the change in th e world, only then do you talk about your product and company. The change is occurring independent of your actions. you just happen to notice it first.
  20. stay away from mobile as much as possible
  21. listening carefully regardless of ppl
  22. when in conflict, the longer you keep the ball in play, the more you learn from each other
  23. use speak instead of talk, use willing instead of want
  24. if you cannot walk away, you cannot negotiate. Whether or not they explicitly refer to BATNAs skilled practitioners routinely stress the importance to negotiators of persuading the other side that you are able and willing to walk away (ideally to something appealing)
  25. you would never do a deal without talking to anyone else. Never.
  26. for any debate, ask for data to support it
  27. speak problem from the other end, reaffirm understanding first
  28. ask extremely thoughtful question
  29. stubborn on the vision, but flexible on the details
  30. when something happens, when we are considering some action, we should not react, and we should response. reacting is emotional and impulsive, responding is waiting and taking time to be thoughtful. if you responding, you are taking your time to think through the odds, or the probabilities of different outcomes from different courses of action. reacting emotionally is opposite of it.
  31. listen, comment only when you truly trust the other side
  32. frame problem in the way that ppl care about, so that the solution hit them
  33. open / speak about your goals and aspirations (so that other ppl can see and can help) (how, the only way to get comfortable is to practice, look out for feedback cues and adapt your style if it isn’t having the impact you want. over time your confidence grew)
  34. find appropriate ways to ensure more ppl know what you do and see you as successful (how to make it easier: find common with ppl you want to be aware of you and use that common interests as a way to work together and over time they get to know you. research my key stakeholders and offered to help them with things that they were working on through committees or other initiatives. then the meetings felt like they had purpose rather than me turning up to present something they may not care about)
  35. get the most out of ppl you don’t like
  36. in disagreement, recognize the concern, express common ground, be crystal clear what I want
  37. speak most precise and concise message in least amount of words
  38. vc
  39. eat a diet high in fruits and vegetables
  40. a meal of cereals
  41. drink plenty of water
  42. don’t sit long
  43. don’t drink milk in the night
  44. avoid infection, wash hands, stay away from ppl with infections
  45. minimize stress
  46. avoid cold dishes, eggs, ice cream, and meat if on diarrhea
  47. life is not created equal. stop complaining, max out what you have now.
  48. what are the most important problems in your field, and why aren’t you working on one of them? It’s a great way to shake yourself up. But it may be overfitting a bit.
  49. trust is not naïve, cynical is not an improvement of naïve. you need courage to trust.
  50. compartmentalize and focus, shape the way how to balance work and life.
  51. the past can be a lesson, but the past is gone. so always ask “what are we going to do to move forward?”
  52. the reason you sugarcoat things is that you don’t want anyone to think you’re an asshole. so that’s vanity.
  53. tim cook. whatever you do, don’t make the mistake of being too cautious. don’t assume that by staying put, the ground won’t move beneath your feet. the status quo simply won’t last. so get to work on building something better.
  54. tim cook. you may succeed. you may fail. but make it your life’s work to remake the world… because there is nothing more beautiful or worthwhile than working to leave something better for humanity.
  55. tim cook. don’t spend too much time on debate, or too focused on fights, instead focus enough on progress. ??
  56. tim cook. the problems doesn’t get any easier based on whose side wins or loses. it’s about who has won life’s lottery and has the luxury of ignoring this issue and who stands to lose everything.
  57. speak slowly, get the msg through, repeat the msg, stick into ppl’s mind